Self-Worth (Part III): What Does My Self-Image Have To Do With It?
How would you define your self-image?
If you have not thought about your self-image in such a definitive way, maybe ask yourself this: “Who do you believe yourself to be?”
I have asked myself this question many times throughout my life.
But it seems to be more like, “Who do you think you are?”
When I am about to do something that scares me that thought came up, ergo self-doubt emerged.
Consequently, once my self-doubt comes to the party, my brain then automatically creates this cascade of other thoughts: “I can’t do it,” or “I am not good enough.” You see, my mind has been practicing those thoughts all my life and as I continue to push myself out of my comfort zone those thoughts arise.
Every single time.
As a result, they start circling around in my mind like water in a shower drain. Yet, I know I can break the cycle by remembering that my thoughts are not the truth.
My thoughts are just that, thoughts. Thoughts that I can choose to believe…or not.
But this automatic lack in confidence dates back to my issues with body-image…
My self-worth STILL hinges on how I am feeling about my body.
I do not believe that I am alone in this.
Many people struggle with creating a positive self-image, or how we see ourselves as human beings. There are a slew of different factors that influence the way we feel about ourselves. Some of those being family, friends, the media, and the environment.
These factors drive our inner dialogue and perception of ourselves.
The way in which we see ourselves is often tied up in our self-worth, or how we value ourselves.
One way to understand your self-image is to ask yourself, “Who am I?” (link to study).
When asked this question people responded in four different ways:
- Physical Description (blonde, blue eyes)
- Social Roles (mother, daughter, wife)
- Personal Traits (outgoing, thoughtful)
- Existential Statements (“I am a human being.”)
The way we describe ourselves is reflective of how we think of ourselves. By answering the question, “Who am I?” you might just gain a little more understanding about yourself and your beliefs. (Honesty is key here.)
Do we see ourselves as worthy or valued?
What if we could think on a grander scale?
Could we first see ourselves as simply human?
How do you feel now?
Can you see yourself as simply a human or a life force here on this planet?
Our beliefs influence our self-image.
Beliefs are engrained within us because they are thoughts that have been played on repeat for so long. Thoughts affect how we feel. How we feel affects our actions. And ultimately these actions make for the outcomes (results) in our lives.
How did you like your answer to the question, “Who are you?”
Did your answer surprise you?
You can shift your self-image by changing your thoughts.
The first step towards change is understanding the landscape, that is understanding the concepts of self. That is exactly what we are doing here.
By learning how our thoughts affect our feelings about our self perception, we can change our lives.
I am ready to get unstuck.