The Importance of the Thought Inventory During the Holidays
The holidays are a time for food, family and friends. All are good but too much can be tough for us extroverted introverts. It can be a time for putting our foot in our mouths, for political discussions, for disagreement and disappointment.
Along with my extroverted introverted-ness, I am a people pleaser as well. I want nothing more in this world than for everyone to like and enjoy me. Recently, I have noticed how exhausting it is to make everyone else happy. While I was trying to make everyone else happy, I was not being authentic.
It is nice when people like you, but it is also OK for people to not like you. I was listening to a podcast recently about people hating you. I can honestly say that no one has ever told me that they hate me. Probably because I do everything in my power so they will not hate me.
However, I am starting to come around to the idea that having people hate you might mean that you are giving them your most authentic self. I am not suggesting that you go around pissing people off, just simply not caring as much about what people think of you.
After all you cannot control other people, especially their thinking. You are only able to control your thoughts, your emotions, your actions, and therefore, your results. So this holiday season I have been doing some reflection and inner exploration. I do this by completing thought inventories to check into my mind and see what I am really thinking.
The thought inventory is what keeps me sane during this time of year. It gives me a chance to explore my thoughts rather than running from them.
By using the thought inventory, I am a calmer, more peaceful person, both to the external world but most importantly, internally. I suggest you go ahead and do a thought inventory at least once to see what you are thinking and how that is making you feel. See if there are any thoughts you would want to shift. Work out how that thought shift makes you feel instead.
Check out my Thought Inventory Downloadable and practice checking out what is going on in your mind. It might just change your whole prespecitve!