You = 1 person + 1 person + 1 person + 1 person + 1 person / 5
Who are those five people for you?
List them out. What are their values? Do they reflect your values? How have they impacted your life? Are you happy with how they influence you?
You have the power to change those 5 strongest influences. You have control over who and what you surround yourself with. This idea took a while to grasp and put into action in my own life.
Growing up in a city where I lived my entire life, I was able to foster many friendships from different groups of people. I thrived within that social life that took me years to create. It was never a question of if I would go out on a Friday night, but with who.
When I first moved to Boston, I didn’t know anyone. Friends were a very scarce commodity. I made it my mission to make as many friends as I possibly could. I wanted to build up that social life that I had grown accustom to. But when I had to start from scratch, there was a bit of a learning curve.
As I settled into my new life, I realized that there was something to the old saying, “quality over quantity.” I found that there were certain people that lifted my spirits. We had fun together, making me want to be around them more. But there were others that made me feel differently. I felt their negativity seeping into my soul and it was hard for me to shake.
It was a while before I realized that these people were bringing me down and I didn’t have to feel that way. I had the control over who I interacted with, and who I didn’t. I started to become more selective of the people I spent time with.
As I started to clean house of social interactions that influence me negatively, I found that I was in need of a good old social media cleanse. Whether it be messages that make me feel badly about myself or make me feel insecure about what I believe. Social media can negatively affect us, but we can likewise use its powers for good.
I was slow to get on the instagram bandwagon. But when I did, I was on my own intuitive, body-loving quest. By creating an new account, it fostered my personal growth through inspirational, self-love images.
I have chosen what I surround myself with through this social media cleanse. Through reading books, listening to podcasts, I continue to use my power of choice to bolster my positive body image, self-love and positive attitude.
Podcasts have been extremely important in helping me build up my strongest influencers. I choose each one by how I feel I need to be supported that day. The topic may be on exercise, intuitive eating, body-love, or meditation. Whatever the topic, I always find a voice that bolsters my values and lifts me up through the fog of confusing and convoluted messages conveyed by the media.
Making time for friends is extremely important to me. I have always been the independent sort and many times I am perfectly happy hanging out with my husband and pup. However, I have noticed that when I socialize with friends who truly love and support me, I am a much happier and well-rounded person.
It is important for all of us to realize that we have the power to change our life. By creating a strong social base with happy, supportive and loving people, the way we live our lives can be changed. Even if you find the positive influencers through listening to podcasts and reading books, the power of influence is in your hands.